I have a bit of beef to pick with some adults. Not every adult, mind you but most. It irritates me to my very core as a mother. Here's the deal:
I have three children, right. I have a beautiful four-year-old girl, a handsome and very studly two-year-old boy, and a gorgeous three-month-old baby.
Why is it that most adults only see the nearly five year old and the baby? Why is it my son, the vivacious handsome and incredibly sweet two year old is practically invisible to them. He loves to talk and enjoys being included in conversations. Why do they pass over him with barely any acknowledgment?
They chat up Eve with "How old are you?" and " Are you a good big sister?" or "Look at that hair!"
They ooh and awww over Eliza, kissing her head, rubbing her arms, generally making a fuss. But when it comes to Judah it's like he isn't even there.
Can you tell I'm peeved?
There are some people in my life who are completely wonderful with him. But they are in the minority, and I just don't understand. He is so sweet. If they would only stop and get down to his level they could see that.
Sigh.... I wish I could make them see him the way I see him. He's a sweet, sweet boy.
I have three children, right. I have a beautiful four-year-old girl, a handsome and very studly two-year-old boy, and a gorgeous three-month-old baby.
Why is it that most adults only see the nearly five year old and the baby? Why is it my son, the vivacious handsome and incredibly sweet two year old is practically invisible to them. He loves to talk and enjoys being included in conversations. Why do they pass over him with barely any acknowledgment?
They chat up Eve with "How old are you?" and " Are you a good big sister?" or "Look at that hair!"
They ooh and awww over Eliza, kissing her head, rubbing her arms, generally making a fuss. But when it comes to Judah it's like he isn't even there.
Can you tell I'm peeved?
There are some people in my life who are completely wonderful with him. But they are in the minority, and I just don't understand. He is so sweet. If they would only stop and get down to his level they could see that.
Sigh.... I wish I could make them see him the way I see him. He's a sweet, sweet boy.
19 Comments:
I'm so sorry to hear that people are ignoring Judah. I'd be annoyed too. Keep encouraging him to talk and hopefully the adults will answer!
I know I've had to make a conscious effort to give attention to an older sibling sometimes when a new baby arrives (admittedly there have only been a total of 2 children). I guess the babies just gets my attention at the moment :D
I hope Judah is noticed soon!
AACK! That is horrible! I am so sorry Andrea! Poor lil guy!
Thankfully...we don't have that problem...although people do pick their favorites with my kids.
I have three as well...My daughter, Madelyn is 6, Xavier is 4 and Jaxson is 2. Some people are drawn to Madelyn's outgoing personality and spunk...and then there are others...like my aunt and my grammie who just adore X. Then I have the people who love love love Jaxson. So, thankfully all three get attention!
I hope Judah starts getting more attention. Trust me, if I was there...I would want to give him a huge hug...he is such a doll! :)
people do the same thing to Braydon & it bugs me too. Maybe it's b/c they're boys, I don't know but when they make a big fuss over Makenna,I can see in his eyes that longing to be gushed over. i make every effort to at that point stop talking about Makenna & start drawing attention to my sweet boy! People just don't think sometimes, do they?!?
I think it's because they're not a baby but not a kid yet and a lot of people don't know how to talk to them. Kind of like people who don't know what to say after someone dies, so they just avoid the person's relatives.
That's terrible. I am a middle child, so I remember how that feels. I'm not sure why people do it, but I can relate. As long as you give him an equal amount of attention at home, he should be ok.
Not sure if it's the "boy thing" but we have the EXACT problem with Ty. We as you know like you have an older girl & a baby girl. It has always upset me that people do this. Not sure if yours has went this far but certain family members actually do this. It really upsets me but thank you for bringing this up. I wish noone problems of course but it's relieving to hear your not alone with them.
I'm sorry that people do that to Judah. It's really sad that people would do that. I hope with all my heart that the attention he does get makes him feel just as special.
I would be upset too. All of your children are wonderful and deserve attention.
You know, I think boys tend to get lost in the crowd, especially if that crowd is made up of girls. Girls are more social and chatty and I think people probably just assume the girls will be more interested in talking. And there aren't many who can resist a baby. Noah is usually the one engaging others, so I haven't ever stopped to think if they start the conversations or if he does.
You tell that Judah that Miss Kim loves his socks off and can't wait to introduce him to her Noah. And that when she sees him one day, she is gonna squeeze him so hard he won't know what do to with himself. kisses on that sweet head of his!
Uh ... just ask my middle son about this. He'll tell you that he is the "middle-forgotten-child!"
He's adorable, but there is something about the middle child ... :)
Oh girl, I so know where you are coming from! We are in the same boat in this family with Jake. He's got two older sisters and then baby Emma. To make matters worse, because he has some "behavior issues" when he does get noticed it's because of something he did wrong. And because my oldest to are twins, it kind of makes it bad too. Poor guy! At least I can see him for the awesome dude that he is!
Alicia
Unless I was in la la land, I don't remember this happening to my kids. My son, however, was the oldest and the other four were girls. Maybe because he was the oldest and only boy, he didn't get ignored. If anything, I would say that some of the relatives favored my son more than my daughters. They felt sorry for the only boy I guess.
Our middle daughter talked about and made fun of being the middle child, but she was not ignored that I remember. People always said that all my girls were beautiful and I remember all of them being talked to at one time or another.
Maybe as Judah gets older this will change. Anyway, don't worry, I am sure it is only a temporary thing.
Ugh! I'd be peeved too! It seems as though people favor girls and it ticks me off. He seems like such a sweet boy. I'm sorry!
I can't believe anyone would ignore that cutie! Just wait... a few more years when the girls start calling you'll be praying for them to ignore him...lol!!
I personally think he's just adorable...especially in his hat!
I really hate to hear this. Judah is so sweet. and handsome. Maybe it's because they are girls. I don't know Andrea. No one has ever done that with Miller and Madison,..they are always amazed at their age difference...81/2 years apart. I hope your little one didnt notice. I hate that for you.
I hear ya! Most people notice Ozzie and Gavin and then Vance but they normally pass up Grayson. They didn't when he was younger but not that he's an older boy (7). Hmmm.... Now that I'm preggo all people see is the belly and the baby and a big lump of boys and make all sorts of rude comments. Oh well!
I felt sad to read this. :( After hanging out with you guys yesterday, it is obvious that those who overlook him are certainly missing out..he is such a little sweetheart. I loved when he said his favorite movie was "Thomas" and his little face lit up!
I am sorry to hear that; Judah is such a sweet little guy. The opposite has been happening to us, lately. Most people have been going wild when they see Stevie, my cute blondie, but his sisters are often ignored. Why must people do these things?
Oh, I think he is one of the cutest little guys I've ever seen! When we had #7, people kept talking about our 6 kids. I told my husband I wasn't sure which one it was, but one of our kids must not be very memorable. :)
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