Eve's school has the "Tally System" in place as their disciplinary action. (Does this ring any bells for anyone?!) If a student needs discipline they receive a tally. Each classroom and teacher has their own unique way of how it all pans out. For Eve's classroom, if a student steps out of line they have to go pick out a puzzle piece from a cup that bears their name. This puzzle piece turns into a minute of time out from recess.
Eve does not want to have to get a puzzle piece. Plain and simple. She is naturally a good girl, she is very obedient and doesn't try and push the boundaries. Much. Daniel and I laid down some incentives for her with regards to tallies and puzzle pieces; if Eve goes the whole week without getting a puzzle piece there will be some sort of treat on Friday afternoon. This week it was an ice cream bar. Now, if she goes the whole month without a tally etc. we will take her out to dinner.
Wow, is she motivated! I, personally, love the rewards system. It works for my kids and it works for me. When I was working if I did well I would get a raise. Reward! For not getting in accidents or receiving a ticket, my car insurance goes down. Reward! Life is full of the reward system.
How does the reward system work in your family?
*Post from 1 year ago today: Eve Has Entered the Dating Scene
Eve does not want to have to get a puzzle piece. Plain and simple. She is naturally a good girl, she is very obedient and doesn't try and push the boundaries. Much. Daniel and I laid down some incentives for her with regards to tallies and puzzle pieces; if Eve goes the whole week without getting a puzzle piece there will be some sort of treat on Friday afternoon. This week it was an ice cream bar. Now, if she goes the whole month without a tally etc. we will take her out to dinner.
Wow, is she motivated! I, personally, love the rewards system. It works for my kids and it works for me. When I was working if I did well I would get a raise. Reward! For not getting in accidents or receiving a ticket, my car insurance goes down. Reward! Life is full of the reward system.
How does the reward system work in your family?
*Post from 1 year ago today: Eve Has Entered the Dating Scene
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It doesn't. Yet. I hope it's just because they are still too young to be that forward thinking...
Sometimes it works for things like, "pick up five things in your room and we'll read a story" or "eat all your veggies and you can have jello".
We could never keep track for the whole week. Right now they need more immediacy. But I'm optimistic!
First of all... I LOVE LOVE LOVE those pictures! Just beautiful.
As far as the rewards system- it's only just starting to work. When Ciara has a whole day at school without a timeout she gets to watch her movies, and have her nails painted. She's starting to figure it out.
We have a reward system regarding bed time. My boys made up their own charts however they would like to keep "score". Sy's was very linear and next, B's had a ton of circles and was all over the place. If they go to bed without reaching the three count, they get to draw a smiley face on their chart in the morning. If we have to count them to three, they have to draw a frowney face in the morning. If they reach three frowns in one week, the chart is null and void and their reward for the week is out the window. If they don't reach three frowns, they get their reward, which they can decide on together. Last week it was to make kool-aid. This week is staying up an extra half hour on Friday night. If they go a whole month with a happy bed time chart, they get a movie night/sleepover with mom and dad downstairs. We blow up the air mattress and watch movies until we fall asleep. My kids test my patience, frequently, but ever since we have started the chart they go to bed really, really well. There are still nights where they goof off, but once they reach two, they are quiet as church mice so they don't get a frown. Sylas got a frown on his planner only ONE time last year. Each day the teacher would give them a star to put on the planner they brought home, or she would circle the frown and explain why they received it. When that happened Sylas was not able to play Wii and had to write an apology note to his teacher for talking during class. After that he said he didn't want to lose Wii privileges again and was stellar. Here's to hoping his stint in first grade will go as smooth. As always, love your photos! You and Daniel are doing a fantastic job with your kids - it shows!
We did reward system with potty training. Every pee on the potty got a small sticker (smiley or star) on that day. Every poop got a big sticker (Bob the Builder, Cars). Once we were done with stickers for pee, we went to a chart just for (as my son called them) "poop stickers." When that was full, we got him a toy garbage truck that he has been wanting for about a year now. Then we took note of how many nights he woke up for the day dry. After 2 weeks of that, he got a spiderman back pack - and we "graduated" him from potty training to potty trained =)
Plus, we've got really cool memories to put in his baby book with the sticker charts, too.
yes, I remember the tally system... all too well haha
I have three very different kids in this regard. My oldest (almost 11) works pretty well for rewards (especially your chocolate chip cookies). Unfortunately, in 1st grade, the way his teacher chose to do it was this: if you do something wrong, you loose all your points. Then, if you do something right, you get 1 back. Rarely did he have any points. So, in school it ididn't work for him and really hindered his ability, for a while, for it to work at home.
For my middle son, 7 1/2, neither rewards, nor punishments work. In this manner we have determined that the only way to stop him from doing something is to keep him from wanting to do it. LOL Really, though, I was thinking about this the other day. The only form of "reward" that Xavier responds to is love. He obeys strictly out of love. If he doesn't love you or doesn't feel love from you (IE a teacher he either doesn't know or who doesn't show any affection toward him-or downright hostility-he's an "active" kid), he won't even consider obeying you or the rules. It's just not worth it to him.
Dominic, the youngest, responds well to rewards, as well, though.
It has been very interesting learning how to deal with a child who neither rewards, nor punishments effect.
Our situation is a bit different in that my children are much older...13 & 16.
Rewards for them equals less restrictions. For instance, if you are not late for curfew as the norm, then on special occasions (ie. dances) you may stay out later. If your chores are done throughout the week, then you will have more freedom on the weekend.
At this stage, with Mal so close to leaving the nest, we're trying to teach her truth and consequences....I want her to know the boundaries without having to have a whole list of rules and regulations...afterall, in 2 years she'll be on her own without my guidance..only God's. So, it's about learning to hear Him in the midst of your friends.
You are such a good mom, Andrea.
Oh, I am so not there yet. It is more instance by instance, like FFJessica commented.
But I love this idea. Judah's belly is so cute:)
ahhh...the tally system. I remember it all to well. Chewing gum and Mrs. Schwartz were not a good combo for me :)
whoa, whoa, WHOA. judah got a bar too?!
:)
oh, we do much the same things at our house. people that say you shouldn't use rewards for kids are usually wrong. (did i just say that? it sounds so mean!)
Megan
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