She came up to me while I was in the Commissary parking lot, insisting that she just
had to see my baby.
She was small with dyed red hair that had just a bit of white roots showing. She wore the perfect glasses for an elderly woman; they were perched sprightly on the end of her nose and showed me bright eyes that were just beginning to grow dim. Her voice was soft yet commanding with the New Mexican accent I hear so often. Her clothes were colorful and age appropriate; she was just right.
"Oh, she's beautiful" she exclaimed. She clucked at Eliza, smiling with her whole face. She exclaimed some more over my daughter's beauty then rubbed her soft hand on Eliza's equally soft hand. Her love for babies was so evident to me.
She then turned her attention to Judah, asking if Eliza was
his baby. Judah enthusiastically nodded his head in affirmation, pleased that someone finally realized that Eliza was indeed
his baby. He showed her his car and she feigned fear that he was going to run her over with it.
"But you wouldn't do that, I can tell." she said. Judah just smiled at her from behind the thumb he was sucking.
I asked her if she had any children.
Four children, she said. And fourteen grandchildren. She birthed three girls and one boy. Far apart, she let me know, so that each child was walking by the time the new baby arrived and could get her own milk.
I asked if she had always lived here and she said no, no, she had grown up in Northwest New Mexico. She and her husband had moved to our town so she could go to college. She went to school for preschool education when she was 54 years old and loved every minute of it. After completing college she taught preschool until she was forced to retire. She seemed quite sad about that.
I asked her about her growing up years - did she have a lot of siblings? She was the youngest of twelve. She told me how her growing up years were wonderful; her home was filled with love and fun. She told me how she and all her siblings thought her mother was the greatest cook in the world. She learned to cook under her; burritos, tacos, and so much more... As she described it all to me her hands moved in the motion of years of burrito rolling. Nothing went to waste, she said. Nothing. She then, so thoughtfully, gave me tips on how to use left over potatoes - bless her heart.
As she was talking I saw the love for her life shining in her eyes; she hadn't lived halfway, of that I could plainly see. She went on to tell me about the tiny schoolhouse she and her siblings attended; about how she would help the cook make lunch and in doing so she would procure for herself an extra bit of food.
She threw her head back and laughed at that memory.
But then it happened; she started to tell me that she had four children and fourteen grandchildren. She told me where she had grown up and why they had moved. I realized she had a slight case of dementia. It brought such sadness to my heart. She was smart as a whip - well spoken and kind. I nodded my head and continued in the conversation as if I had never heard that information before.
Four or five times she told me about how many children she had. All I wanted to do was hug her but instead I asked if she would let me photograph her hands. I needed the memory of her.
"My hands?" she said, looking at them with fresh eyes. Yes, your hands, I told her. I gently held one and told her they were perfect.
"Oh, they have arthritis." she said sadly. I insisted they were perfect, because to me they were.
She agreed to let me take a photo, asking how I wanted her to position them. Maybe like this, I said, laying my hands over one another. She did so after adjusting her rings.
I took the pictures and showed them to her.
"Hmmph" she said, not at all pleased with the wrinkles and creases and the look of arthritis. I told her they were beautiful. She wasn't convinced, but that was okay. I knew they were beautiful and perfect in every way.
Unfortunately I had to go, I needed to get into the store and do my shopping. The kid's naptime was quickly approaching and their current good behavior was going to swiftly decline into the dark territory of bad behavior if I didn't get a move on.
I never did get her name but it didn't seem to matter. That would have been just a formality. She made a deep imprint on my life and
that is what mattered.
This lovely woman gently laid her hand on my arm, looked deep into my eyes and reminded me to enjoy my children; love on them because they grow too quickly.
I needed to hear that; I needed to hear it from a woman who has lived and loved long. Earlier that morning I had prayed that God would bring just the right person into my day for me to photograph; she was perfection. Absolute perfection.
And that, my friend, is the story of these beautiful hands.
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I wish I had a picture of Oceana and I tonight making blueberry playdough pancakes.
I think what makes the playdough special is that it was a promise - and Oceana knew it. We were in KMart when she asked for playdough - expensive name brand Play-Do. I told her I'd make her some at home. "I promise."
And I remembered that I promised it. One day after naptime there was bright blue playdough waiting for her.
She loves it. She wants a spatula, a spoon, a cookie cutter, and a rolling pin. And she'll be happy for quite a while...
It makes me smile.
I just posted a handful of these kind of things yesterday on my personal journal. Here are a couple:
M has been singing "Happy Birthday" a lot - it goes "Happy to do, Happy to do, Happy to do" ad nauseum... but its really cute at the same time.
R has been singing "God is bigger than the boogie man" from Veggie Tales. I started singing it to him because he's now afraid of the robots in his room. That goes, "God is bigger thaaaan... the booooogieman. He's bigger or the monsters on TV. God is bigger thaaaan... the boooooogieman. He's bigger or the monsters on TV." Again... over and over. Though he does like the part where he yells "Hey cut that out!"
Unless they're exceedingly tired, they've both been pretty good about saying their prayers with us at night lately. I love listening to M's word-at-the-end-of-the-phrase version of the creed. And R's Sign of the Cross at the beginning of prayers goes, "Our Father and the Son and the Ho-wee Spiwit Ahhhhmen!!"
He also asks me if I remember "the blue and yellow store? Best Buy?" I do - thanks for asking... but we haven't gone there but 2 or 3 times since we moved to Oregon. I don't know where that comes from.
M and R have been tucking their babies into the doll cradles that we have - M especially. Then they get rocked and sung to and M gives them the bottle she has - and occasionally "side" (her word for nursing). Yesterday the babies were in the hospital because they were sick, according to R. They could play that game for hours.
M has taken a great liking to her pelt that I got for her in SD. She lays it out on the floor and then curls up on it or does, I guess, pelt angels on it. And she gets very upset if R tries to get on it.
I wish I had a picture of Max's face when he came into the kitchen last night to tell me the exciting news that he has a loose tooth! Eyes full of excitement :)
I also wish I had a picture of the little girl excitement on Abby's face when I reminded her that her daddy was going to take her to preschool today for their "Donuts for Dads" day.
Finally, I wish I had a picture of Lucy when I go into her room to get her up and she's just waking up. Even when she is laying down and her eyes haven't opened all the way she gives the biggest smile because she knows I'm in the room :) Warms my heart. All 3 of them.
I totally know what you mean about wishing your eyes were cameras, I've thought that sooooo many times - and my son is such a bouncing off the walls kid that a million amazing pictures pass us by, but I love the still moments, the ones of quiet where suddenly we're both just resting with each other and you don't dare grab a camera for fear of ruining the moment...
It's so funny that you said that line about wishing your eyes were a camera and able to capture all that you see. I say that to myself and to Sean at least 10 times a week. :)
I wish I could capture the look on Sean's face when he's trying not to laugh at something silly I've said/done. ( I see that look alot)
Or the beauty of so many sunsets that I've seen and not been able to capture
I love snapshots of the everyday, so much so that this week I am carrying my camera EVERY where I go so that I do capture those moments. There is a scrap book challenge on this web site that helps you document the everyday. It's very cool to fallow along.
http://aliedwards.typepad.com
those memories would make wonderful photos!
Haha, I can't think of anything right now, because seriously I would have said "hold on a sec!"
ran and grabbed the camera and then said "ok, now you can walk away." :) I do that A LOT!
"Hold on, don't move! I need the camera!"
I was putting the baby to sleep last night. Tim was at a church meeting. I could hear the fridge door open and shut, open and shut, and then I heard a drawer open, the clanking of silverware, and the door shut.
Hmmm. What could he be doing? I decided to finish with the baby and deal with it later.
It is Samuel's face that is etched in my mind. You could tell he was pondering if he was going to be in trouble mixed with the thrill that he made his very own glass of chocolate milk.
He said quietly "I made it all by myself mama!" Waited for my response, then gave me a great big smile!
I had the perfect photo moment a few years ago, but i didn't have a camera.
I was at work looking out the windows. I work across the street from a hospital and pregnancy clinic.
Crossing the alley between the two buldings was a young mother leisurely (sp?) pushing her baby in her stroller. A few yards behind her was an very elderly lady pushing her walker.
A perfect picture of our seasons in life.
To this day I think of that missed Kodak moment. It was perfect.
Oooh so I am not the only one who wishes they could take photos with their eyes!
I've often felt the same thing...I don't think any camera in the world could capture things exactly as we see them.
I often wish I had my camera with me during the day, all sorts of things fly by that I feel like I am missing.
Does Eliza keep that bow in her hair? DO tell!!! Leah rips hers out the second I put it on . . . so we're back to the "oh, what a cute little BOY" comments from strangers again. Uh, even when she's wearing pink.
All of these came out so great, Andrea. I love them all:)
I have often wished I could have a camera wired to my eyeball...
The vivid picture you paint is amazing as I've said before you have such a way with words - I love reading!
Taking photos with your eyes wouldn't it be marvelous!
There are a few moments that have been etched in my mind with Jericho lately. She is starting to sign and at lunch to day I ask if she wanted more cottage cheese she nodded YES! with her big blue eyes wide and alive and as she signed more the joy on her face from being able to communicate, me being proud and excited that she signed it and getting more cottage cheese all at the same time was almost to much for her. She was bubbly and I soaked up every moment it was priceless.
There have been so many moments like this lately with Jericho - I'm loving it!
There are priceless moments with Gideon that I have etched in my minds camera too but I'll tell ya about them later. I don't think I can handle thinking (well I am think about them I don't think I can write) about them right now.
Tarah
p.s. Love all the pictures you took! You did a great job!
Awww, "yeth mama." Too cute. Love this last picture, too!
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